Lets talk today about getting something unexpected. Put yourself in my place when I say this (and I mean only the guys), I get a call from my friend (a really close old buddy right down from my school days) saying something like this “Hey Dude, whats up? How you doing?” I return the pleasentaries by asking how he is doing himself. He then says with a deep baritone ”Dude I am not sure if you have heard this….I have already informed the others about this”, at this point I am thinking something bad has happened and I am gracing for the worst considering I feel its some disaster. The next thing he says “I got ENGAGED last week….”

Pretending that I didn’t hear that correctly, I asked him to say that again. He says “Dude im ENGAGED!!”. The first thing I do is break into a laugh, the next thing I do is check if its 1st of April. I retort back “Cmon Bro, Shut Up!”. He says “I am serious im Engaged”. My smile turns smaller and smaller by the second cause its not the 1st of April and my friend’s Gawd Damn Serious. All I can think about at that point “What The Hell is happening?”, I mean this friend of mine never seemed to have a relationship ever since I have known him. We used to talk about how marraige is not on the agenda and be bachelors till we can survive on our own ;).

All that changed with this one line, but being my friend and chaddi buddie I him wished all the best and congratulated him on the new step he has taken without any malice. The next thing I am thinking now is what is going to happen to our BrotherHood. Well for those who don’t know BrotherHood basically consists of all our friends from school especially the one which used to attend Hindi-Marathi tutions together. We call it the Martiso Brotherhood (named after me as we used most time at my place). So coming back, the Brotherhood’s pillar was my friend whom we thought will ensure our hood survives the test of time.

When I asked my friend what made him decide to get engaged, he said he just knew it as he really had fallen for the beautiful lady whom he knew the past 4 months. Truth be told, I would kill for a feeling like that and that is why I am even more Happy for my friend. But this just puts undue pressure on the other guys who have relationships. I know another BrotherHood member who is 7 YEARS (Freaking 7 YEARS!!) in a relationship, I can almost feel the noose being tied around his neck soon. Another friend from Hood got saved by the bell, he just told me recently he broke up with his girl, LUCK BUM!! As for me, I don’t know yet, I dont believe im in that state where I can see marriage. I know for a fact 3 years 6 months should be a decider, but I just believe in more time to know and be more compatible.

So to all those guys out there, if you even have the slightest feeling that you see yourself with someone for the rest of your life. Just Go For It!! You will never regret that decision you made.

Cheers Till Laterz.